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Rivka Levy

5.0 out of 5 stars I was very happy to read a copy of this

The title alone tells you that this book is trying to go out on a limb in the orthodox Jewish world, so I was very happy to read a copy of this, author Bracha Goetz’s memoir.

The book spans around two decades of the author’s life, and begins with her diary entries as a young girl, to her ‘diary friend’ called Twilly. Now, a quick confession: I wasn’t overly-fond of the ‘Twilly’ entries, although I could appreciate that they were setting the scene for what was to come, and trying to depict the day-to-day life of a young secular Jewish girl in the States who had no idea what it really meant to be a Jew.

The book really started to come into its own, for me, when ‘Twilly’ disappeared off the scene and Bracha began to describe her experiences in much more adult terms. The book covers a lot of ground, ranging from trying out other religions as an older teen, to falling in with a bad crowd, to the first real experience of Yiddishkeit on a trip to the holy land.

Although the content is pretty dramatic in places, and is definitely pushing out boundaries in a frum world that likes to keep all the issues and problems we all face in our private lives firmly under wraps, Bracha writes with such a gentle hand, often via allusion, hint and poem, that’s it’s often left to the reader to peer between the lines to really grasp a little more of what was truly going on.

One of the book’s themes is food, and more specifically the unhealthy relationship to food so many people in the West, and particularly media-pressured women, seem to have in our generation.

Again, the subject is treated with a gentle hand in the book, but the picture painted is still clearly one of eating dysfunction as a result of that huge, spiritual hole that so many of us baal teshuvas had to try to fill with whatever came to hand, growing up.

Some people tried to fill it with unhealthy relationships, others with career ‘success’ and money, and still others with substances and pills. Bracha ended up with an eating disorder, hence the title of the book.

Something else you should know about ‘Searching for God in the Garbage’ is that many of the prose sections are punctuated by poems, and a few of those poems were my favourite parts of the book.

Take this verse, for example:

A box of cookies

As a temporary refuge

Doesn’t last long.

Not long enough

To be a kid forever.

So much is said in so few words about what’s really behind so many of the eating disorders, and all sorts of other ‘disorders’ plaguing the world generally.

Usually, when a book tackles the kind of heavy-weight subjects that are found in Goetz’s memoir, from seriously dating non-Jews, to dealing with family members who are upset that you’ve ‘joined a religious cult’ by getting all frum on them, to that effort to fill the black void inside our souls when God is missing from the equation and apparently out of the picture, it can often be wrenching for the reader, and pretty hard going.

Personally, I quite like wrenching accounts (call me a masochist…) but I still enjoyed the more gentle approach employed in Bracha’s book, and I applaud the author’s courage in putting so much of her real inner dimension out there, and lifting the lid on a bunch of subjects that we should be discussing much more in religious society.

Ultimately, I think the book is actually more about finding God in the garbage, than just searching for Him there. Maybe that’s a subtle distinction, but not everyone could have come through Bracha’s experiences and emerged a believing Jew.

It’s not easy growing up sane and Jewish. It wasn’t easy in the 1970s and 1980s, where much of the action in the book takes place, and it’s probably even harder in 2018. And that may well be where this book will have the biggest impact in the Jewish world, as a bridge between parents who are doing their best to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ and to pretend everything has always been A-OK, and the next generation that is desperately demanding that we get real, and honestly explore what’s happening in our lives, families and inner dimension.

Goetz’s book goes a long way to building the foundation of that discussion, and I, for one, am very interested to see what other positive things may now be built in the orthodox Jewish world, as a result.


Ruti Eastman

5.0 out of 5 starsA rosebud in the refuse


Imagine knowing a woman for a couple of decades, and seeing her only as a sweet, spiritual, funny, uplifting community member and children’s book author. Suddenly, one day, she opens a window into her soul and into her past… and you wish you had been friends back then, because you would have so understood each other… and then, you realize that neither of you would have dropped her mask to let the other see the pain, the struggles, the burning questions about a sense of purpose in a seemingly purposeless world.

Bracha Goetz has helped countless mothers and fathers to bring up moral, well-adjusted children with her exceptional children’s books — so far, 36 children’s books! (May she yet write many more!) Now, she shares her climb from informed emotional illness (meaning that she studied and understood eating disorders, and still couldn’t protect herself from them) to a life of physical, spiritual and emotional health and well-being.

This book is more than a haunting and hopeful memoir. It is a cautionary tale for those who still believe that knowledge by itself is enough power to protect you from slipping down a rabbit hole of self-destruction. The answer may or may not be God for every reader — but every reader can benefit from Bracha’s vulnerable and poignant documentation of a search for meaning from the disgusting depths of absolute despair.



5.0 out of 5 stars It will change you


I didn’t expect to like this. It started off very girly-diary-esque. And I hate poetry. (It’s mostly memoir but contains a serious amount of poetry.) But the narrator, Joanne, pulled me in. Her depictions of food addiction are haunting, gripping. Her search for something sustaining and nourishing and true really got to me. There is an aching sincerity and intelligence that comes through on practically every page. I wanted to re-read this almost immediately after I finished, but t his time to underline all the gems, and there are so many. I prayed better after this memoir. (I did skip some of the poems, but in the end, I really enjoyed some more than I expected.) Thanks for much, BG, for writing this.


Stan in Baltimore

5.0 out of 5 stars It is very refreshing to read of a person’s journey from illness to good health with an eye towards healing the soul rather …

This book is an inspiration. It is very refreshing to read of a person’s journey from illness to good health with an eye towards healing the soul rather than only the body. And we can see that a beautiful life and family came as a result of this search and not just from a couple years but from the perspective many years.


Paula Z.

5.0 out of 5 stars A Life-Giving Read for the Hungry Soul!

I read this book with great interest, and I hope that all those who should read it will do so! It was a compelling read for me, and I loved the diary entries.

Be careful not to overlook the very first page, right before page 1 and opposite the copyright page! Re-reading it now, several weeks later, makes me cry. You’ll see why, perhaps only after you finish the book and read that page again. I am in awe of Bracha Goetz for having the courage and commitment to write such a book.

Love this book!


This candid and enlightening story of finding self in a world of chaos is refreshingly positive at a time we need it most. So many are truly searching for God in the garbage called social media or false teaching. Goetz brings you back to what matters most, the basics of life, which is complicated and inundated with electronics that are supposed to make us more accessible when it does just the opposite. All you need to know is in the Bible and Tora, not on a talk show or on Twitter. LOVE is everything and LOVE is GOD. Goetz is an example of being His hands and feet. What she went through will help so many with the meaning of life, eating disorders, relationships, marriage, and children. I am in awe of you.

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